How do I know I’ve found my spouse?



Pray about your relationship – hand it to God! Say to Him, “God I love this person, but I want to know what You think.” You even have to be prepared to let go of the relationship if you feel that God says, “No.” In giving the relationship to God completely, it takes it beyond human desire and attraction. This “giving it all to God” places the relationship on a very strong foundation because during times of disappointment and trouble you can say, “This person is God’s will for my life, so I’m going to work through the problems with His strength.” 


This abandonment to God keeps the relationship, the love, from being ruined by becoming possessive. When someone chooses to become selfish and “smoother” someone else, the love never grows or mature – it dies. True love is not selfish; it never makes a possession of that other person. Rather, true love is a sharing of lives together. 


The second step is to receive a confirmation from God as to whether or not the person is God’s will for your life. In our case, God confirmed His will through other people in our lives, people we respected spiritually, as they affirmed the relationship. I had been praying specifically for confirmation and on separate occasions two older people encouraged me. God can use many ways to confirm His will. Some of these ways also include His speaking to you during your Bible reading and private devotions, your prayer time, and through family members and Christian friends who know you best. 


 Excerpts from Rebecca St. James, Relationship

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